Second in a series of posts on virtue. The first can be found here.
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We saw this house on our honeymoon Up North in Michigan. It is like a Hobbit mansion. Photo by Mark Spencer. |
My
husband and I are in the midst of a search for our first house. We have
a limited budget, like most single income families, and I often find my
imaginings for our first house to be much grander than what is actually
available to us. Ever since we were married I would find myself looking
at nice, large houses thinking that it would be great for a large
family, and knowing all the while that I would never be able to have a
home as large or as nice. When you marry a man aspiring to a career in
the liberal arts you cannot really expect to have the dream house,
especially when your husband’s dream home is a combination of the
Earthship’s of New Mexico, Frank Lloyd Wright’s Prairie style, a Hobbit style house, and
Pemberly as portrayed in the BBC’s 2005 Pride and Prejudice.
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An Earthship of New Mexico. Photo by Biodiesel33. |
Since
what we desire is fairly ridiculous and entirely unfeasible, I realize
that we need to change our expectations about a house and be thankful to
God for the gifts he has given us. It is so easy to fall into the vices
of greed and covetousness without even realizing it. The thoughts of
wishing for a nicer car, house, clothes slip into the mind, and when
they are entertained the vice develops. Instead of falling into these
vices, we can develop habits that create virtue in us. One virtue that
helps is that of gratitude to God for all of His blessings. I may not be
able to live in the most beautiful mansion in St. Paul, or even a six
bedroom house that will hold a growing family, but I will be able to buy
a house that has a solid roof, a good foundation, a yard, and most
likely a garage. I will have a kitchen with electricity, running water,
clean dishes, and good food. There will be a washer and dryer in my
house so my clothes are easy to clean, and bedrooms for sleeping in with
soft beds and warm blankets. I will also have at least one bathroom
(hooray for indoor plumbing!). And my house will be clean, because we
will take care of it and maintain it.
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Taliesin by Frank Lloyd Wright. Photo by K. Murphy |
Prayers
of thanksgiving are the primary way to develop the virtue of gratitude
to God. St. Francis de Sales encourages Christians in
An Introduction to the Devout Life
to focus on God within one’s heart and pray throughout the day during
one’s daily occupations. Thanking God for His gifts is something that we
can easily do as we pray internally to Him. For example, as I make
dinner I can thank God for the gift of food, an income to buy the food,
and a kitchen to cook it in. I can also be thankful that my worries are
not about whether or not we will have food, but what size kitchen the
new house will have. Setting aside time for prayer to thank God for His
gifts at the beginning and end of the day is another way we can thank
Him. Start the day with a simple
morning offering and end the day with another
prayer of thanksgiving.
Thanking God before and after meals also builds our gratitude. When we
take the time to thank God it is not as easy to get caught up in our
“first world problems” without being properly thankful to God.
Speaking
of first world problems, another way we can show God our gratitude is
to give of our abundance. One of the things the Church encourages us to
do during Lent is to give alms. Giving alms helps us to recognize that
we are blessed, but that also there are others who need what we have
more than we do. There are many organizations that collect money to
provide food for those in poor countries. Another way to give alms is to
donate food to a food pantry or clothes to an organization that helps
those in need, or just put more than usual in the collection basket on
Sunday at Church.
A further way to develop a habit of gratitude is to take care of the things that we
do
have. Instead of seeking always the newest and the nicest, we can be
excellent stewards of our goods. Maintaining our homes, appliances,
cars, and other goods is a way of honoring God and thanking Him for the
goods He has blessed us with.
There are so many ways to be
thankful to God for our blessings and overcome vices that make us
unhappy and take us away from union with God. When we have proper
gratitude to God, we also grow in our love of Him. We come closer to
realizing fully how truly dependent we are on God for all that we have,
especially our very existence.
"Therefore I tell you,
do not be anxious about your life, what you shall eat or what you shall
drink, nor about your body, what you shall put on. Is not life more than
food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air:
they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly
Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you
by being anxious can add one cubit to his span of life? And why are you
anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they
grow; they neither toil nor spin; yet I tell you, even Solomon in all
his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the
grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the
oven, will he not much more clothe you, O men of little faith?
Therefore do not be anxious, saying, `What shall we eat?' or `What shall
we drink?' or `What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek all these
things; and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek
first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things shall be
yours as well.” –Matthew 6:25-33
Originally posted on Truth and Charity.
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